<html xmlns:v="urn:schemas-microsoft-com:vml" xmlns:o="urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" xmlns:w="urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:word" xmlns:m="http://schemas.microsoft.com/office/2004/12/omml" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/TR/REC-html40"><head><meta http-equiv=Content-Type content="text/html; charset=utf-8"><meta name=Generator content="Microsoft Word 14 (filtered medium)"><style></style></head><body lang=EN-US link=blue vlink=purple><div class=WordSection1><o:p> </o:p><o:p> </o:p><div><div style='border:none;border-top:solid #B5C4DF 1.0pt;padding:3.0pt 0in 0in 0in'>From: 59113@priorityoneemail.com [mailto:59113@priorityoneemail.com] On Behalf Of Marjan Glavac Sent: Thursday, May 02, 2013 7:06 AM To: Linda Carter Subject: Linda Control the Uncontrollable Student<o:p></o:p></div></div><o:p> </o:p>Hi Linda <o:p></o:p>Control the Uncontrollable Student<o:p></o:p>Yesterday I introduced a dear friend and mentor of mine for over 7 years.<o:p></o:p>Ruth Herman Wells (M.S.)<o:p></o:p>Ruth has been creating resources and running workshops across the USA and Canada with ready-to-use answers for aggressive, withdrawn, non-compliant, abused, unmotivated, at-risk and delinquent youth grades K-12 for over 20 years.<o:p></o:p>She has helped create and manage many model youth programs including independent living, day treatment, mental health, juvenile justice and secure programs.<o:p></o:p>Her programs and methods help answer questions like these:<o:p></o:p>How do you control the uncontrollable student?<o:p></o:p>How exactly do you get in charge of your most unmanageable student?<o:p></o:p>How do you deal with the 1% of your class that takes up 99% of your problems?<o:p></o:p>I bet you know who they are.<o:p></o:p>They’re the kids who operate like cars without brakes—out of control.<o:p></o:p>Here’s a sample summary of one of her lessons to teach students step-by-step how and why to behave more peacefully.<o:p></o:p>Her lessons are designed to motivate students to become more receptive to the idea of using new, more peaceful behavior.<o:p></o:p>Do You Really Want To Go Through Life Without Brakes On Your Anger?<o:p></o:p>Goal: To assist students who deny that they have problems with out of control anger, to consider the lifelong consequences of being out of control.<o:p></o:p>Method: Inform student that they will be learning more about the likely consequences of having poor anger control. Ask students to identify reasons why young people may claim that they will not need to learn anger control skills. Elicit answers such as “blowing up isn’t that big a problem” or “I can get by”.<o:p></o:p>Distribute copies of “Do You Really Want To Go Through Life Without Brakes On Your Anger?” handout to students. (see below). Ask class to complete the forms. Discuss the forms with the class focusing on one question at a time. Ask the students to consider if the excuses they gave earlier as explanations for not needing to learn anger control skills are supported by the information on the handout. Assist students to determine that without anger control skills, a person will have extreme difficulty in many important areas of life.<o:p></o:p>Review the major points of this lesson: without anger control skills, a person will have extreme difficulty in many important areas of life; students who believe that they won’t need anger control skills when they are adults, may be very surprised when they actually enter the adult world.<o:p></o:p>Handout<o:p></o:p>Do You Really Want To Go Through Life Without Brakes On Your Anger?<o:p></o:p>Choose the most likely result of out-of-control anger in each of the following multiple choice questions.<o:p></o:p>1. Pedro always uses lots of swear words when he loses his temper. He will find that when he cusses out his apartment manager that…<o:p></o:p>a) His apartment manager really won’t mind loudly being called swear words. b) His apartment managers will patiently wait until Pedro works his way through every nasty swear word he knows in both English and Spanish. c) Apartment managers will begin eviction proceedings immediately.<o:p></o:p>2. Kwan Lee makes a nasty hand gesture at people and calls them very insulting names if she has a problem with the way they are driving on the freeway. She has just moved to a much larger city, when she makes vicious gestures and comments, the other drivers will…<o:p></o:p>a) Give her a friendly wave and a bright smile. b) Ram her car with their’s. c) Thank her for sharing her feelings so freely.<o:p></o:p>3. Brad grabs people by the collar when he gets angry at them. Now, Brad has a job he really likes. The first time he grabs a business customer by the collar, he will…<o:p></o:p>a) Get a “free trip” from his boss to the unemployment office. b) Get a really big raise from his boss. c) Get a really big promotion from his boss.<o:p></o:p>4. Maria sometimes shakes people really hard by the shoulders when she is furious with them. Maria now has two tiny children of her own. When she shakes her children, she will find…<o:p></o:p>a) How easy it is to cause a serious injury to a baby. b) That her children won’t mind being hurt by their mother. c) That her children won’t mind being scared of their mother.<o:p></o:p>5. Vanessa spits at people who make her angry. She has her own business now, and the first time she spits at the person who supplies her merchandise, she will discover…<o:p></o:p>a) Most business people consider being spit at to be the best part of their job. b) Spitting at business acquaintances is a popular business practice like shaking hands. c) How quickly business people file big law suits claiming assault.<o:p></o:p>6. Jack can’t keep his hands off of the women he works with. In the work place, this will result in…<o:p></o:p>a) A huge sexual harassment law suit against him that he will lose. b) A lot of happy co-workers who like to be touched by anybody who has the urge to do so. c) Thank – you’s from co-workers who like to have their personal space violated at work.<o:p></o:p>7. Rosemary carries a weapon whether it’s allowed or not. When the state trooper pulls her over for a traffic check, he will…<o:p></o:p>a) Understand that the rules don’t really apply to Rosemary. b) Say that she can pick and choose which laws she follows. c) Confiscate the weapon and arrest her.<o:p></o:p>8. At work, Jason makes slurs about women and people of diverse backgrounds. Jason will learn…<o:p></o:p>a) That it’s good business to harass customers and co-workers. b) That sexual and racial harassment will lead to many serious legal consequences. c) Slurring others is the best way to win their business and respect.<o:p></o:p>For more information on Ruth and her unique ideas to deal with inappropriate behavior, click here: <a href="https://www.youthchg.com/teachers-store/">https://www.youthchg.com/teachers-store/</a><o:p></o:p> *Full disclosure: If anyone chooses to purchase products from Ruth Herman Wells, I will earn a small commission. I just wanted to make sure you knew I have previewed all her content, including her online classes. They are all fabulous resources. I would not recommend anything to my readers that wasn't. Ruth has a lot of free resources on her site and a free magazine subscription at: <a href="https://www.youthchg.com/teachers-store/">https://www.youthchg.com/teachers-store/</a><o:p></o:p> All the best<o:p></o:p>Marjan<o:p></o:p> This is a Test Marjan Glavac 509 Commissioners Rd. W. Suite 11 London, ON N6J 1Y5 CA If you no longer wish to receive communication from us: <a href="http://autocontactor.com/o?r=6027c0961bdd4c06b815895848d60f4d">Cancel</a> To update your contact information: <a href="http://autocontactor.com/o?c=1&r=6027c0961bdd4c06b815895848d60f4d">Update</a> <img border=0 width=1 height=1 id="_x0000_i1025" src="http://www.on2url.com/lnk?o=bB0f4Rxc7k4%3D"><o:p></o:p></div></body></html>